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(no subject) [Dec. 30th, 2004|01:49 pm]
Contented Aunts and Uncles
[mood |lazylazy]

Hi! I've been a member for a while but haven't posted yet. I'm an only child and never really wanted kids, and I was sad because I wouldn't even be an aunt. However, my fiance has a nephew so I kind of became an aunt. It has also confirmed what I've always thought: I wouldn't make a good mother. I love to spoil, though.

Me, the contented aunt, on Christmas eve with Pascal and an ugly Mr. Incredible doll.

This little hockey player sure won't go on strike

A very tired Pascal, with his uncle
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(no subject) [Nov. 29th, 2004|05:29 pm]
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I have posted before about my niece, the cutest ever. But I also have a nephew due in January! I can't wait.
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Intro [Nov. 29th, 2004|04:24 pm]
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"Do you want kids?"

"No, my clone plans to breed"

(I'm an identical twin. She wants kids, I don't)

I have two nieces, age 9 mo and age 14. The 14 year old in particular thinks I'm a "kick butt auntie." I love being an auntie.

1) If there's a parent-child dispute, an aunt/uncle can act as a neutral ear.
2) Parents need "time out." that's where we come in handy.
3) When it comes to teacher conferences, we can provide excellent back-up.
4) We can hand them back to the parents.

5) Every kid needs a "crazy" aunt/uncle to tell stories about and help them leanr about things the parents won't necessarily talk to them about.
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(no subject) [Sep. 19th, 2004|09:13 am]
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From something I just wrote in my own journal:
I've actually saved every comment about my Fletcher icon (almost every day I get one comment saying, "squee, I remember Fletcher, I loved that book!" or something similar) because I wanted to go back and paste in a reply to each about how I came to use it, but lost track of how long it had been since I'd been getting the comments. So I just went back and replied to saved comments (by doing a search in my LJ mailbox) from April until this week. In doing so, I found myself making a response in an old thread:
I didn't read the All of a Kind Family books until I was an adult. I had great books, but I didn't know about huge chunks. I read Twain and Dickens and every single Oz book and Horatio Hornblower and My Friend Flicka, and I read anything my sixth grade teacher put in my hands, and I read Agatha Christie and Kipling and all the Trixie Belden (pure trash, but I loved it) available at the time, and the Five Little Peppers and How They Grew, and the Little House books, but I never heard of CS Lewis or Madeleine L'Engle or Susan Cooper or the Boxcar Children or the All of a Kind Family until I grew up. I think my mom knew about the books she'd read, but was missing most of what was published from World War II on, and a fair chunk of random other books.
The whole world knows I want children, and I swear, one reason is so that I can go through all of the books I loved as a child, in an intimate, couch-cuddling setting, and watch the child grow and change and love and talk about the books over time.

I'm not really one of those "contented aunts" who loves children and is happy to be childless. I'm not in agony over choices I've made that keep me childless (and probably ensure future childlessness) but I sometimes sigh about it, and listing those books brings up the sighing.

I wish I lived closer to my nieces and their children. One of them is fairly reachable and stable, but lives two days' drive away. She turns 30 in a few days, eep! I've never met her two children. The other one isn't very reachable. In our family's weird "tradition," her life is in near constant upheaval and she's in only sporadic touch. I've met her kids once, and they seem pretty nifty. I find myself wanting to take care of her kids, so they won't grow up the way she did, with chaos.

I just realized as I typed this that I'm almost afraid to get close to them, as they might be taken away from me, only to return in a few years entirely different children than what I was expecting.
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Hi, I just joined. [May. 13th, 2004|04:27 pm]
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[mood |Happy]

Hi, I just joined. I was thinking of starting a community for people who had cute nieces, but I wanted to make sure there wasn't already one. This seemed close--at first I was a little wary because it said "aunts" in the title, but the secondary one said aunts and uncles, so I decided to join. Anyways, here's my cute niece: http://img7.photobucket.com/albums/v18/DannyBoy2/DCP_0943.jpg. Apparently, my sister's pregnant again, so in January I'm going to have a nephew--at least, if it's not a boy this time, I'm disowning my sister.
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bragfest!!!!!!!!! [Dec. 13th, 2003|01:31 am]
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[mood |exhaustedexhausted]

never thought about searching for this until I added the interests "nephews" and "nieces" to my interests.

I am 16, so naturally I'm not wishing for any kiddies here. I'm the youngest of 5 kids myself, and my oldest 2 siblings have produced 4 each, already-they staggered their childbearing by each choosing a year, apparently - we had a new kid every year. the 6 boys came first, and then our last two were girls. (yes, seriously - each family has 3 older boys and a baby girl!) the oldest one just turned 9 and he is TOTALLY my buddy - only 7 years' difference means he comes in my room and hangs out wiht me and we talk about his girlfriends and music and he quizzes me for whatever test I'm studying for.

my mom is pretty much a full-time grandma, since I'm not around much and am the only one left at home, so the kids are over a LOT. they have totally stable & awesome homes, which I am grateful for, but love their grandma and beg for visits.

I used to hate little girls, because my little boys were so perfect, but now I'm in love with the girlies, too!! they're just so different. my sister's boys are funny cuz their dad is irish - they talk like him!! his oldest is 7 and reads at 6th-grade level. he also has drawn better than I sicne age 2, no joke. all of them are so incredibly smart and talented--my siblings are mega-over-acheivers and married to match--and I am scared for how they're going to use their genius, lol!

just to brag... gotta see the names my sibbies picked out:
Christian Shannon - 9
Conor David - 7
Timothy Jahn - 6
Barry Patrick - 5
Ethan Walter - 4
Wesley ..... omg I can't remember - 2
Lily Ann - 1
Fíona Margaret - 6 months
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Hi [Sep. 25th, 2003|03:18 pm]
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This is my first post in this community. I am happily childless, have a four-year-old niece whom I love, but is very very spoilt by my mother, her grandmother. The scary thing is, when I look at her, especially during her tantrums, she reminds me so much of myself when I was but a wee whelp like her. O I was a brat alright, but somehow I turned out okay. I hope she turns out fine too. She loves me, reveres me and knows that I don't take no nonsense from her. But boy, when I look at her, I go "phew, thank God I don't have my own!"
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words [Sep. 5th, 2003|12:33 pm]
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I'm new to livejournal, and just discovered this community. I think
it's a great idea. I like the word "nibling" - does it mean "niece
or nephew, by blood or affection," or am I missing something? I wish
there were a similarly gender-neutral word for "aunt or uncle." Vicki
made it clear enough that this group welcomes both aunts and uncles,
but English is stubbornly sexist on this point.

In this generation, at least, we have "to parent," as a gender-neutral
verb. (Though if you went back a hundred years, my great-grandparents
would have stared at you in bewilderment. Of *course* mothering was a
very different sort of work than fathering. What sort of idiot would
call them by the same word? And these were people who made sure all
their sons could cook.) If they were verbs, would "to aunt" and "to
uncle" describe the same sorts of work? In terms of what you feel the
world expects...I understand that some of us go against the world's
expectations sometimes, but I usually feel the extra resistance.

By way of introduction: until recently, I shared a house with a couple
of dear friends. When their daughter was born, it was remarkably
pleasant to come home to lullabies and people cooing at each other.
I was never responsible for the child, as a parent would be, but I'm
very fond of her. (Noticing that one toddler managed to make 3 adults
feel outnumbered and surrounded a fair amount of the time, I have no
idea how the children of single parents can survive. Or multiple
children, in two-parent homes. There just don't seem to be enough
eyes and hands.) I'll affirm my non-parent status by pointing out
that, while I like this family very much, and love to visit them,
there's no way my health could cope with becoming the primary nurturer
for a child, and it probably wouldn't be good for my emotional state
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Clarification = good [Sep. 4th, 2003|12:03 am]
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Um... I hate to be a spoilsport here, but I've noticed several recent posts along the lines of "I love kids, and I don't have any yet, but I will definitely have them someday!"

In the community description: This is a community for people who are happily childless... (emphasis mine)

If you do like kids, and do want to have kids someday, perhaps another community might be better suited? Or, if I have misunderstood the intent of this community, perhaps this isn't the right community for me. Please note that I'm not attacking or condemning anybody; I'm trying to clear up some confusion, which may very well be on my end.
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New Member... [Sep. 4th, 2003|01:00 am]
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[mood |awake]

Hello! I'm Sarah!

I'm a big child lover. I have loved children since my first babysitting job when I was younger. I have two Nieces (Ashley & Allyson), one Nephew (Jonathan), one Goddaughter (Piper), & one Godson (Joseph).

The one I am very close to is my Niece Ashley. She will be 14 on the 12th. Even though I am 20 & she is just 13 we have the greatest bond. I don't really consider her my Niece, more like my very close friend or the Sister I never had. Our family members our very jealousy of our close relationship. It's amazing how much we are so alike despite our age difference. We sound, talk, act, & think alike. Funny thing... When Ashley was born I was so green with envy, I despised her. She was the new baby in the family & I wasn't anymore! But, one day... We just came together like magnet & steel.

Jonathan & Allyson are Ashley's Half-Brother & Sister. I don't really seem to mesh well with Allyson. I honestly don't think I ever will, which is sad. She takes after my Sister Ann (Mom) so much that it colides too much between us. I don't really have a good relationship with my Sister. Jonathan & I just began to get close in the past two years. He is very artistic. I instantly bonded with him the last time he stayed a week with me when he said... "Sarah, if you don't ever find a good man to take care of you & marry you... I will marry you!". He has such a deep heart.

Piper will be two years old on the 12th (same as Ashleys). Our family friend Alison & her Husband had alot of troubles trying to have a baby, so they adopted Piper. Alison has known me since I was a baby. We are close to each other. She decided to make me Piper's Godmother since she knew I would always be there for Piper when she gets older.

Joseph is the youngest of the bunch. He was born June 20th of this year. His Mommy is one of my best friend's, Cristal. Cristal & I have been friends since Junior High. We've always been close. Joseph is the most beautiful baby I have EVER seen. He looks like one of Gerber babies. He is the most wonderful baby! I hope to spoil him rotton when he grows up!

Well, I hope I meet some great Aunts & Uncles in this community!
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